I recently attended a weekend workshop for older women. The leaders used the word “’crone” to define the stage in a woman’s life after she passes through menopause. Why, I wondered would anyone want to call themselves a crone? If you check any dictionary, the word is associated with being an old hag, a shrew, basically a mean and ugly woman. No way did I want that to be my identification, so I did some further investigation. I searched to find if there was a more pleasing word that might be used to reference a post-menopausal woman.
“Nobody sees a flower really; it is so small. We haven't time, and to see takes time, like to have a friend takes time."
Geogia O’Keefe’s words may remind you of the importance of friendships and how for many in our fast paced lives sadly friendships are put on the back burner, making them not a high priority. Although unquestionably you do “care about” your friends, you simply have no time, no energy to give them.
I have to confess. As I move along in age, I am much more impatient and get annoyed more easily than in my younger years. Often these petty annoyances make no sense, even to me. As an example, I find myself irritated when I hear the universal, socially- acceptable greeting, those three little words, “How are you?”
Dancing has become prime time entertainment. ‘So You Think Can Dance”, Dancing with the Stars”, and the latest, “Live to Dance” offers thrilling competitions; they are a great spectator sport. But you may recall a time when you yourself once loved to dance.
As we mark the beginning of the New Year, it may be seen as but another opportunity to continue growing into who we really are. As boomers (those moving beyond the middle years) we may feel more sure of our selves and more certain of our wants and our needs.
Something to consider is the top item on the short list of big benefits to getting older. It is said most often that with age, “You just don’t care so much what others think about you.”
Posted: Friday, November 7, 2014 3:00 am Newburyport Daily News
It has been called “the retirement crisis,” and much of our generation is now feeling it.
First, it was the economic recession we faced, which for some meant the loss of jobs, homes, fortunes. And now, at a time when our work lives are ending, we are unprepared.
It is Springtime and your thoughts may turn to “love”, especially if you are a single person and wanting, hoping for something or someone new to enliven you.
Many boomers and those beyond are looking for, maybe for the second or third time, a mate or at least someone to date. But now, in this more evolved phase of our lives, dating may feel unfamiliar and uncomfortable. It’s not like the old days when you could ask your friends to “fix you up”. Back then your life probably revolved around others your own age who were equally single and wanting to hook up. When we move up in age and experiences, when many of our friends are already in marriages, it can be much more challenging and even hard work to find someone new.
New Year’s Eve is usually a time when friends gather together to celebrate, eat and drink (and sometimes over do it). For me, on that special night, rather than go out, I choose to “go in”, to become introspective and investigate or “wring out” the old year, before ringing in the new.
I remind myself of the key points, both the lows and the highs. What were the new opportunities and the successes? What were my challenges and how did I come through the losses and the disappointments? How did I do with it all? And what do I want to see in the coming year?
PICK YOUR BATTLES
You may have noticed that some arguments are a waste of time. Things will not change, no matter what is said and, therefore, it’s useless energy expended. You get all worked up and your blood pressure rises. It’s not good for the health, so decide to let it go. But, you may want to put up a fight over certain principles, such as feeling mistreated by someone. You might fight back, up to a point, and then decide to back off, knowing you have at least expressed yourself.
“What was the name of that movie, you know, the one that I liked with that older guy? What’s his name?”
The names you seek are right on the tip of your tongue, but you simply cannot remember, and when you go to copy a phone number down, you transpose one or more numbers. You now cannot ignore that you have had some short-term memory loss. This recognition can be really upsetting at first, but then you may decide to just let it go, stop beating yourself up and sweating the small stuff. No big deal, and anyway, your friends are just like you; they can’t remember things either.